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Stay With The Question
Finding the Real Question Your Life Is Asking
Joel Arcus
Are you facing a decision that won’t resolve, no matter how hard you think? Most of us answer the wrong question. The quality of our life is determined by the questions we’re willing to stay with. Stay With The Question shows you how to find the right one and stay.
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“We do not live our lives on the days when everything is decided. We live them on Tuesdays.”
“I need to decide,” he said. “I’ve been doing this for months and I’m no closer than the day I started.”
He had argued both sides so convincingly that the argument had become the trap. In rooms full of people, he could carry the case either way. Alone at three in the morning, he could not carry it at all. He told me what the board thought. He told me what his family hoped. He told me what his younger self would have envied and what his older self feared. The words came quickly, efficiently, like a man who has rehearsed a presentation so many times he no longer hears it.
“Which way should I swim?” he asked. “You’re the coach. Tell me.”
I asked him to turn the first page of his stack face down.
He did. We sat in a silence that lasted long enough to become useful. Rooms have a way of going quiet in the moments before someone tells the truth. You can feel it if you do not rush to fill the space. When the quiet had changed in quality, I pulled a legal pad between us and wrote a single sentence at the top.
It was not clever. It was not original.
But it was alive in a way that his question was not.
Ten years from now, what do you want an average Tuesday to feel like?
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Let yourself discover what ‘staying with the question’ can do for your life.
You may, however, discover the question that has been waiting for your attention all along.
The quality of our life depends on the quality of the questions we choose to live with. Joel doesn’t give answers, he helps you discover the questions that change everything.