The right question, phrased well enough that someone would finally see clearly.
Now I think my job is to get out of the way.
When someone brings me an idea they're wrestling with, I don't help them think it through. I ask where it sits in their body.
Nine times out of ten, they find something - tension in the shoulders, the chest, somewhere they hadn't noticed. I don't interpret it for them. I just ask what it's trying to tell them.
That's when the room goes quiet. Not an awkward silence - a full one. The part of them that was never going to answer to logic starts to speak, in its own time.
I've learned to let that silence run longer than feels comfortable. Most people are so used to filling space with more thinking that they've never been given room to feel what's underneath it. Silence is where that room appears.
This is what I mean when I talk about staying with a question rather than rushing to answer it. The body often knows before the mind catches up. My work is just to keep the space open long enough for that knowing to surface.
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